tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18554411.post1639856661757585393..comments2024-03-28T06:44:48.369+00:00Comments on Sue Hepworth: CrapSue Hepworthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15371516958537364663noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18554411.post-71533187226239351212016-12-01T18:33:00.655+00:002016-12-01T18:33:00.655+00:00Doing pretty well despite snot infused brain if yo...Doing pretty well despite snot infused brain if you ask me! JenettaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18554411.post-40321597705290129692016-12-01T11:17:00.357+00:002016-12-01T11:17:00.357+00:00gosh, I am being opinionated this morning!gosh, I am being opinionated this morning!Sue Hepworthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15371516958537364663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18554411.post-46066931863310881242016-12-01T11:16:37.101+00:002016-12-01T11:16:37.101+00:00Yes, part of the unwilling post, yet to be written...Yes, part of the unwilling post, yet to be written, was about gender differences.<br />And I suppose that no, there does not need to be one model of friendship. However, and it is a big however, I think Lewis's description of friendship somehow debases it, just as the notion of "friending" on Facebook does. I am not on Facebook, but from what I understand, a friend can be someone who is not a friend as you or I - or even C S Lewis - would understand it.<br />Fair point thought Chrissie. <br />I personally think there are different kinds of friends and different levels of friendship, and if Lewis had been saying that one kind of friendship is THIS - his description - I would not have been appalled. His version seems to rest in the cerebral alone. Friendship involves emotion or it is worth nothing in my book.<br />Sue Hepworthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15371516958537364663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18554411.post-64477855428196163832016-12-01T11:03:44.465+00:002016-12-01T11:03:44.465+00:00I do think that friendship between men is sometime...I do think that friendship between men is sometimes like this. It can be very different from friendship between women. And must there be only one model of friendship? Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16510409974009816550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18554411.post-21644860960816039782016-12-01T10:32:35.867+00:002016-12-01T10:32:35.867+00:00I knew I could depend on you for an answer, Marmee...I knew I could depend on you for an answer, Marmee. Thanks for contributing.<br />Yes, honesty, acceptance and fair exchange.Sue Hepworthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15371516958537364663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18554411.post-19454048146337196602016-12-01T10:11:45.471+00:002016-12-01T10:11:45.471+00:00gosh sue this is a hard hard question. I also disa...gosh sue this is a hard hard question. I also disagree with C S Lewis BUT do agree with what he says in the last bit of the piece you quote: in that I agree that friendship adds value to survival. I have in my life had two close friends...and my goodness how greatly they differed from one another ..and from me! Neither read (s) the sort of book I read, had the type of marriage I have...and I could go on and on but what they had in common was a real acceptance of who I am and for me so important as well, they had a natural inclination to honesty , shied away from pretense. I write in the past tense but one is still very much alive even though she lives far away from me now but for 8 years or so we lived in very close proximity...would often see each other casually every day and still visit formally at least once a week and dined together in company with our spouses once a month. Now we write many many mails and when we saw one another a while ago it was as if there had been no distance , no time since we lived a short bike ride away from each other. So....friendship has to be soft., safe , welcoming but oh my also tough..able to withstand knocks and distance and a friend must sometimes tell you a home truth or two...and always fair exchange...giving and receiving in equal measure...marmeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03704741638865010421noreply@blogger.com